I havent posted anything since March and a lot has happened. A few weeks before going to new clinic I received a copy of all my notes from old clinic and in this was a letter to my GP advising them that my second IVF attempt had failed and that they were recommending donor eggs for future cycles. I was devastated, this was the first I was hearing about it as I hadnt been for my WTF appointment yet. After many tears and why me's we decided that if this was the only way we would get our baby we would give it a shot. I had the usual worries about donor egg; would I feel like baby was mine, what if it looked exactly like donor and nothing like OH, would we tell everyone and what would we tell any child born, it was all a bit overwhelming. We decided we would talk about it more with our new consultant at new clinic.
We went for this appointment at the end of May and they too advised that donor eggs was the way forward. Our options were going on their waiting list which can take 9 months +, going to a clinic in Spain they work with or use a known donor. We were very keen on the clinic in Spain but this would cost a lot more than we had so would have to have saved a little more. We were put on their waiting list anyway and came away from appointment with all the details re clinic in Spain to have a think about it all.
A few days later we had a few people offering to donote eggs for me. I couldn't believe that people would want to go through all the treatment and egg collection and was very touched by everyone that offered. We had 3 what I am calling serious offers, one from a very good friend (you know who you are and I am so thankful for you thinking of me) one from a family member's girlfriend but I felt she was very young and a friend of my sister who has always wanted to donote eggs and had offered to help me when I first started my treatment a couple years ago. After much thought we decided to go with the friend of my sister, she had finished her family and her hubby had the snip, I felt she was close enough but not too close that she would be in my life afterwards etc. So we met up and talked it all through, just to make sure she knew what she was getting herself into and I contacted clinic soon after to say we had found our donor!
That was at the end of June and she had bloods done to check her AMH level and that she was suitable to donate. Thankfully she was yay! and after some counselling and more bloods we have now started our donor egg cycle. I have only needed Prostap injection to down reg and I am now on Progynova HRT and I have progesterone pessaries for just before and after transfer. Donor also had prostap and has today started her stims eeeekkk.
I was at clinic today for scan to check on lining which is looking good and Im all set to go for transfer. Egg collection is looking to be around 21/10 and transfer 5 days later, so I could be PUPO by the end of the month :)
